Fatherhood Part. 8

Our 21st Century Society in America have made being a Father a competition; as if you’ll get an Academy Award for being something you’ve created yourself… and it goes through our culture with very little-to-no resistance because of the [lack] of active Fathers. Within that [lack], not all of those Fathers are missing in action by choice either, many are forced out of their kid(s) lives through bad relationships with the Mother of their child(ren), mass incarcerations and gun related deaths/ violence. It’s sad, but it’s the reality in life as we know it in America. In retrospect being a Father isn’t a competition among other men, it’s a personal honor and duty of each man sowing their seed(s) on this Earth. It’s an obligation that You’ve biologically made as a man bringing a child into this World, so it should never be a luxury for that child to have You as their Father. It should be the absolute basic norm for You to be there for them.

There are many dads out there, but not too many Fathers; there’s a big difference between the two. For the Fathers that are there everyday through and through needs the proper respect that they deserve, because I believe that there’s a collaborative system out here that’s against Black men in particular from being Fathers, especially the minorities that are living in the low income areas all across America, possibly the World.

Fathers are the backbone of a child’s sense of awareness, pride, confidence and security, from their adolescence all the way to their adulthood long after leaving the nest. In layman’s term; most children that are growing up without having the presence of their Father will have a higher chance of getting into trouble simply for being in the wrong place at the wrong time more often than children that are growing up with a Father going into their adulthood. If you have seeds then water them and let them grow peacefully with prosperity. Be the backbone of their future, because a woman should only be a nurturer for your child(ren) not their protector, only provider and etc… in this day in age, many Women have to, which inadvertently throws off the balance of her nurturing nature to your child.

We as a People have to bring back the Fatherly influences of the past back to the forefront in all sectors of media like the Carl Winslow’s and uncle Phil’s.. Yea it was made for TV Hollywood, but there’s great Fathers out there and potential great Fathers in the making right here in real life. Some of them are your within your family, some are your neighbors and friends, some are your coworkers and associates. No matter the circumstance–most of all of Fathers just need to see a blue print of what it takes to be a great Father. We have to face the fact that we are dealing with a society of parents without parents, so it’s a catch 22. Just always remember that the better the Father the better the Child the better the Future.

The time is now, please honor and respect the Fathers.

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Fatherhood Part. 7

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Last week was the week of Father’s day and yes, I know a lot of you all have already started taking your fathers or kids fore-granted. As a father, you should take pride in your offspring(s) and enjoy each other either by going to Church or dinner, but most of all the best way to connect is through having conversations. Communicate with your kid or kids, break down the pros and cons of life,make sure your kids are on point because as fathers we are head of the house hold; the castle. So we have to be kings and fight endlessly for our seeds and family. Remember whatever you do in life will help or hurt your cubs so be a lion. Roar when needed. Protect and serve what God has given you and not just on Father’s day but every day.

Being a father is a 24/7 job, even when you’re not around your child your duties are still intact and you must acknowledge that fact . I salute all those men who were and are willing to sacrifice their personal wants and needs so they can provide for their family. That makes you a king more than any amount of money or jewels. It’s about that unconditional love you bring to the table 365 days a year (even on leap year) make that extra day count and I promise you shall be rewarded abundantly. We may not think that our kids are looking up to us, but they are, so be careful of your actions and words because kids really value the time they spend with their fathers.

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Fatherhood Part. 6

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Look your child in his or her eyes from birth or first possible second and make them feel you when you talk. Don’t be afraid to have a convo with your child. Even though they may not understand… they still hear you and acknowledge your voice and tone, so if it’s something that you really want them to embrace and hopefully it’s righteous, do tell them constantly, because the earlier you do that, the earlier they catch on.

 

That’s a solid foundation that will instill and promote the importance of communication…

 

I have a 2yr old daughter and one day I told her call me if somebody mess with you or hurt you… Just simply talking with her while she’s nodding her head yes and no…

 

The very next day her mother called and asked me, “did you tell her to call you…?”

 

LOL I was so surprised, but proud to know that I got that power of communication with her this early on.
So with that being said my Kings, talk to your child(ren) even if you don’t think that they quite understand what you’re saying to them. Just speak.

 

 

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Being in your child’s life before they breach the birth canal plays a major roll on the mental level of the relationship between you and your child’s mother. Reason being is that it’s a vital time for her and the child growing inside of her. Less stress is better for any Pregnant woman, you being present plays a foundational roll mentally and emotionally for that child’s mother, your presence will give her the much needed security, self confidence and re-assurement when those hormones/ mood swings kicks in, thereby even if you both end up separating later on in life, she will always remember you sticking by her through those hardships and tough times during the pregnancy for as long as she lives.

 

Think about it Kings, you will be apart of those vital memories, so being there post child birth is a great benefit for her personal thoughts of you as a man not just as the father of her child. She will recognize that you’ve been there in her most vulnerable states as a woman, therefore her appreciation and regard for you will produce less drama after childbirth. Trust me, drama free is not promised, y’all will be as 1 forever and a day because of y’all child, but Kings; it doesn’t mean that you both can effortlessly drop you’ll pride and be civil as friends while making an easier path towards raising your child together as a couple or apart as co-parents. Either way, as a King, be stern and just be there regardless.

 

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Fatherhood begins the very second of conception with the opposite sex. The soil that you choose to sow that seed in and conceive with will eventually become the mother of your child, that woman can play a major roll in how you are as a father and how you perceive fatherhood for the rest of your life. So make sure that you study that particular woman thoroughly before sex, because once you make that move and sow that seed, it’s not right to say ohh man I can’t stand her, it’s cowardly to say I can’t do this and that with her or for her after she conceived your child. Don’t get me wrong, my child’s mother gave me that feeling plenty of times early on and most of it was my fault as a man, I had strong urges to detach myself from my child, just to avoid her young mother’s lack of knowledge (ignorance).

 

Every time that I got that urge, I resisted it for the sake of my child, I know that it’s not easy my Kings, but you can’t walk out your child’s life because of their mother. You wasn’t forced in that situation with that woman, you have a child to tend to, you chose their mother as is, you should’ve gotten her Wofax, by not checking her personal background and ancestry, you’re automatically taking full responsibility for whatever comes next, yeah bro, it’s your fault that you’re in that bad situation, not hers, she was always the way that she is now, she don’t know how to act and be any different, it was your job to think with the head on your shoulders, then see her for who she truly was prior to conception.

 

At this point, you just have to let her be ignorant if she so chooses, but as a new father don’t you dare be ignorant with Google around, educate your self on the Laws in the Books, go online and carefully read what your State’s Statutes are for custody as single fathers, what the laws are for child support, visitations and so forth, work hard, get yourself straight as a man and as a father to be a good model Citizen in the eyes of the Law and a prime example to your child, so that if anything happens like D.C.F coming into the picture, you can petition to get shared, if not the full rights and custody of your child which will tremendously effect the child support payments out of your check. But instead, if you so choose to focus on her and her stupidity, you will be off track and out of balance, if and when the inevitable happens in a bad relationship, you won’t be in a position to come through for your child with all the B.S included.

 

Therefore don’t pay her any mind on top of the child support when she’s on her ignorant trippy days, just kill that with kindness and stability, separating yourself from around her vicinity, “not your child included”, meditate, pray for her and wisdom from a distance, always make it known to her that your love and bond with your child is primary to you’ll relationship. Overall, eventually she will start seeing you as the consistent stand up father that you are and not just as her man or ex lover. Yes, she’ll still feel some type of way and trip, but she will bow down to that bond that you have with your child, the attachment that your son or daughter will have to you will be too strong for her to even do anything but get her mind right and get out of the way.

 

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Being a father is heavily influenced by the male figures of the past. Things encountered in your father’s past that’s exposed to you during upbringing will effect you, whether it’s good or bad, it plays a big part in your roll as a father yourself, therefore you have a responsibility to control those memories and use them for guidance on your fatherhood journey. Fathers are meant to be protectors, pastors, and providers, while the mother can be the main source for comfort, you as the father should also be a comforter in your own rights. As a father, at times you will be sacrificing and alternating positions in the process of upholding that title, and maintaining your Kingdom, but as a man you have that extra strength pre-programmed within that drives you to hunt and provide for your family. It’s all part of having that King man’tality and being a father.

 

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Fatherhood is a hard, but it can be an easy task. Full acceptance of its responsibility is what must first occur before a man can even label his self a father. You can’t go into it not sure, if you’re not ready then you’ll leave an innocent child vulnerable to suffer your lack of awareness and presence in this wicked world alone, with no instructions passed down from you the father to your child, and let’s be completely honest, in our neighborhoods or tax brackets, most cases of Momma’s baby daddy’s maybe, the child will not be born with a silver spoon in their mouth, therefore being used to not having a complete structure will be their first impression of life. So Kings, know that fatherhood starts the minute you connect your spirit with that significant other. Being fully aware of the risks that you’re taking, starting with planting a seed during intercourse with that woman. It’s unfathomable how some men will have unprotected sex with a woman whether it’s in a relationship, steady or random, then they’ll get amnesia when they receive that phone call from her that she’s pregnant. If you’re going to have sex unprotected, then have it with a mindset that’s prepared to produce with that particular woman and feed your curiosity with all the to do’s and do not’s of fatherhood, so that you can adapt quickly to being a father if you receive that call. Can’t be blinded by fatherhood my Kings, protect the bloodline of your Kingdom.

 

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